Friday, March 27, 2009

to KAT

the anonymous..
and the confused...

Dear Kat, you sound like a delicious little dish - your prose and witty response reminds me of Amber..but you're not...just some fiery hell cat that i definitely have time for...

anyway, thanks for not breaking 'guy code', but seeings how you are a chick i don't think that applies, so the curtain of anonymity you are donning can be removed.

i think, Kat, you may have gotten the wrong idea behind my blog, and i will try to clarify any misunderstandings - i know it's a story and there's the old literary saying, if you packed it you meant to take it with you, but this time the author will try to communicate what was supposed to be conveyed the first time.

my 'teachings' as we will call them were more-or-less confidence boosters. i was more about the art of opening a set, breaking the ice, the initial interaction; as opposed to the latter potential or possibility part of the process, getting into the pants in this case...whatever happens after "Gary" opened a set and 'negged' or "dhlv'ed" is out of my hands..i was merely trying to get him to talk to women, show him they all don't bite (at first) i am all about meeting new people, making new friends, sharing stories, etc...there's a way about talking to people when you are out...whether the intentions are, well, whatever, it really doesn't matter..there's certain things to provoke certain actions, whatever...the hardest part for most, is really the simplest, saying hello - starting the conversation...

i thank you Kat for trying to relieve me of my guilt, but, in all honesty, i don't think i'm entirely to blame, i'm just one person - granted one person could be your guru, or messiah...i'm here just trying to help others out as best as i can...

now if it's out of my hands, why do i care about him womanizing or playing...because that's not what i taught him, and following what i said about helping others, i feel as if i should steer him on a better path...of course, who am i to say what is right and wrong, especially in pertaining to another person's life..who am i to tell them they can't fuck as many women as possible, or do drugs, or stick their finger into an electrical outlet...i'm nobody's parent (yet). but isn't that what a friend does as well...isn't a friend someone who holds similar values or beliefs - maybe goals or a certain lifestyle...whatever it maybe, you keep close those who want the same quality of life as you want...so maybe it's a test to see where Gary stands...should he want to continue with a destructive lifestyle and disregard any help from his friends, wouldn't we just toss him to the wayside?

i'm not even sure where i am going with this anymore....all i was trying to say in the blog was, yes, gary has been that guy on a lot of occasions..but he doesn't want to be..and i know he can not be..it's just this "hot streak", as he lovingly calls it, that he is on is really the death of Dr Jekyll...

do we have an intervention...are these blogs and comments helping to reverse the process of forever becoming Mr Hyde....just what do we do - tell all the girls he's fooling around with to stop talking to him? how effective would that be...Gary is a danger to not only other women at this point, but in a greater sense, to himself...once someone gets that 'i'm single and i can do whomever i want' bug in them, it's hard to get it out..

there's a whole other side to gary you may not be familiar with, and even though it wasn't good for him then, i'd almost rather have it back presently...but, from a psychological standpoint, the transgression between the two is an easy lapse really....as i was saying, gary was prone to fall in love with any girl that gave him the time of day...in his last relationship his workplace took bets to see how soon he would say the dreaded words "i love you" to the girl (i won with 2 weeks)..

it's just clingy insecurities....and now that he has throngs of women hanging off of him he feels as if he has succeeded in something, finally, in his life...back to the highschool comment...we could go further with this, but this blog is long enough

so longblog short; my teachings were really a guide to meeting people, they weren't meant for or responsible for gary hooking up with many women, maybe gary is that guy, and if so, what, if anything, should be done about it..do we just sit idly by and watch it all happen...do we allow gary to play the game, only to get burnt in the end by another player...just what should be done so that he is not a 'frail, insecure little man' anymore?

it's getting late and i was tired four hours ago...this day, like this blog, has run on long enough without any constructive direction...goodnight.








"it's just like in karate where they tell you 'what we teach you here is meant as a last resort'"

9 comments:

Amber said...

hey! Gary gets to keep his codename... why don't I???

Kat said...

The curtain remains--not based on my own accord, but on the account that Gary will inevitably read this and quite possibly be offended by who I am and what I've said. Imagine that? Not that I care,though. I merely have a soul.

What I wrote was in response to personal experience, not simply you're blog. So, yes, your "Dear Kat" blog holds some truth, but my response, however, pertains to more--and on a less bias standpoint.

I was actually more so responding in agreement and hilarity at the uncanny similarities that you described in conjunction with what I endured.

I realize your "teachings" are equal to ice breakers and such...but they have also been misconstrued. In a dating sense, it feels as if it's one ice breaker after another--a flirtacious retard with no direction.

Kat said...

P.S. Correction: "...not simply YOUR blog."


Wouldn't want you to think I am incompetent.

Jangus said...

Amber - as the blog started off, it was actually a comment...it became so lengthy that i decided to make it a blog instead...so when i referred to you as "amber" i meant it as the hick who just commented above - but as i switched it into a blog, i never made the name change...you will still get to keep your 'codename' in my blogs, but i feel as that if anyone who has read it before the name change and then once after would be able to put together the da vinci code i have made, lol...so you are amber and your codename is still left for ambiguity..

Jangus said...

Kat - i don't think you are incompetent and wouldn't use a simple grammatical error against you, it's common and i am sure i mess up a lot as well in my blogs - as i never re-read them before i publish...so it would just be petty of me to attack your grammar....but do it constantly and maybe i''l retract that statement...

i'm sorry you got to witness the theatrics that is Gary, but also glad you saw through them? and could agree with me..

i guess we are dealing with, what as i put it before, a highschooler, a younger kid - but he can also be manipulated...i just want the best for him and i was trying to utilize the blog as a wake up call...maybe we could remold his ways...but as my friend Jade would say, people don't change...so then why do we create these 'projects'?

thank you for your cunning remarks...they make me giggle at times

Cynthia said...

"how soon he would say the dreaded words 'i love you' to the girl"

Dreaded words... cool...

Amber said...

So I'm a hick now??

Jangus said...

chick..chick...chick....ughhhhh, i'm sorry...you weren't raised in a trailer....

MyNameIsHippo said...

I shudder at the fact that you may be someone's father some day...that child will be the most manipulative person on the face of the earth...and I mean that in the nicest way possible, because you are halarious.
PS - Did Lindsey ever come out to the bars with you guys that night after we all ate together? Frodo and I were wondering about that...we haven't been in there recently, so we couldn't ask her.